What follows is one of the many fundamental skills in getting what you want out of life.
First, you must know what you want your life to be like, without external forces. If you had absolutely zero demands on your time for the rest of your life, what would you do?
When you lay down for sleep or any quiet time throughout the day, close your eyes and focus on your desired future. Imagine every detail of all of your senses, breezes, temperatures, sounds around you, and every vivid detail you can imagine. Especially focus on how it makes you feel. Now focus on how you feel in your future dream-world.
What are your prominent emotions, now that your life is exactly the way you want it?